For women after betrayal, divorce, or unhealthy relationship patterns

Tired of ending up in the same place?

Understand why it keeps happening, and learn how to respond differently. One-on-one Integrated Attachment Theory coaching with Carla.

Book a 20-minute discovery call → How coaching works

No pressure. Just a conversation about where you are.

Carla Payton, Certified Integrated Attachment Theory Coach
Certified IAT CoachMother of three. Been where you are.
Understand your patterns
Heal core wounds
Meet your needs
Set healthier boundaries
Communicate more clearly

Sound familiar?

You know something needs to change. You're just not sure how.

These are the things women tell me on our first call. If a few of them sound like you, you're in the right place.

The caretakerI hold everything together for everyone, and feel lost myself.

The yesI say yes when I mean no, then feel guilty.

The repeatI left one relationship and found the same problems in the next.

The knowingI understand why I react. I still react that way.

You don't need it figured out.Finding what's underneath is part of the process.Talk to Carla →

The 12-week program

What we'll actually work on.

Over 12 weeks of 1:1 coaching, we work through six areas using Integrated Attachment Theory. Each one builds on the last, so you leave with tools you can keep using.

1

Your beliefs

Spot the stories you tell yourself about who you are, and start replacing the ones that hold you back.

2

Your needs

Get clear on what you actually need, and practice asking for it without apologizing.

3

Your emotions

Understand what happens when you're triggered, and how to work through it instead of shutting down.

4

Boundaries

Set boundaries that stick, even when saying no feels hard.

5

Communication

Say what you mean in hard conversations, without falling into the old script.

6

New habits

Notice old reactions as they happen, and choose differently, in love and in life.

What you get

  • Private 1:1 sessions with CarlaFocused on your situation, not a group script.
  • Practice between sessionsSimple exercises you try in real life, not just talk about.
  • Tools you keepIAT tools you can use long after the 12 weeks end.

This is coaching, not therapy. We focus on understanding your patterns and building practical skills.

How it works

Getting started is simple.

  1. Book a 20-minute callTell me what's going on and ask anything. We'll see if the program is a good fit.
  2. Start your 12 weeksPrivate 1:1 sessions, working through the six areas at a pace that fits your life.
  3. Practice and keep the toolsTry what we cover between sessions, so the change shows up in real life.
Carla Payton

About Carla

I've been where you are.

After ten years of marriage, I went through betrayal and divorce while raising three kids.

Therapy, books, and podcasts helped me understand what happened. But understanding wasn't enough. I kept repeating the same patterns.

Integrated Attachment Theory gave me practical tools to actually change them. Now, as a Certified IAT Coach, I help women do the same, at their own pace and without judgment.

Certified Integrated Attachment Theory CoachMother of threeCoaching, not therapy
Carla Payton recording the Personal Development School podcast

Featured guest

On the Personal Development School podcast with Thais Gibson.

Thais Gibson created Integrated Attachment Theory. Carla joined her to share how IAT helped her rebuild after betrayal and divorce.

Unmet emotional needsRebuilding after heartbreakA fulfilling life while single
Watch on YouTube →

Questions

Good to know before you book.

Still unsure? Bring your questions to the discovery call.

Who is this for? +

Women who've been through betrayal or divorce, or who keep ending up in the same unhealthy relationship patterns. You can be married, separated, single, or dating.

What happens on the discovery call? +

It's a relaxed 20-minute chat. You tell me what's going on, ask anything you like, and we see together whether the 12-week program is a good fit. No pressure either way.

How does the 12-week program work? +

It's 1:1 coaching. We work through six areas: your beliefs, needs, emotions, boundaries, communication, and new habits. Each one builds on the last.

What should I expect between sessions? +

Small, practical exercises to try in your everyday life. That's where the change happens, and we talk through how it went in our next session.

What if I don't know what needs to change? +

That's completely okay. Figuring out what's happening and what's underneath it is part of the coaching.

Is this therapy? +

No. I'm a Certified Integrated Attachment Theory Coach, not a therapist. We focus on understanding your patterns and building practical skills.

Your next step

Ready to stop repeating the same story?

Book a 20-minute discovery call. We'll talk about where you are and whether the 12-week program can help.

Book your discovery call → No obligation. Just a conversation.
Carla Payton